Hope Relentless
Marriage Counselor Near Noble Library in Tempe
Fewer conversations where you meant one thing and heard another. A quick way to check what actually landed before it turns into an argument. Both of you learning to close the gap between what is said and what is heard. We coach you together at our Chandler office, about 20 minutes from Noble Library, or online.
30 minutes, free, no obligation. Both of you on the call.
Noble Library is the Daniel E. Noble Science and Engineering Library at Arizona State University, at 601 E Tyler Mall in Tempe. It is a place people go to get the details right.
Couples run into a different kind of detail problem. What you said and what your spouse heard can turn out to be two different messages, even when the words were careful. You may know the telephone game, where a whisper passes down a line and comes out changed. A marriage only has two people in the line, and it still happens. So we teach a short habit for catching the gap early.
The Telephone Game: What You Said Versus What They Heard
Four moves, and none of them take more than a minute.
Say what you meant
Put the one thing you want your spouse to know into a single sentence. Start with what you feel or need. The details come second.
Ask what they heard
Skip "Did you understand me?" Try "What did you hear me say?" Then listen without correcting.
Name the gap without blame
If it came out different, say "That's not what I meant, and I can see how it landed that way." You are not trying to win the replay.
Say it again, shorter
Try once more with fewer words. The second version usually lands.
It will feel clunky at first. Laugh at yourselves. A gap you catch in a minute costs far less than one you carry for a week.
Getting Here From Noble Library
We use Noble Library, at 601 E Tyler Mall, Tempe, AZ 85281, as the starting point. Google Maps' fastest route runs AZ-101 Loop S, about 20 minutes and 9.3 miles. Routes along E University Dr and along E Apache Blvd are each about 21 minutes. Our building sits at the southwest corner of Loop 101 and Ray Road. We also meet online.
To see the whole approach, visit our main page for a marriage counselor Chandler couples can meet with in person or online.
Hope Relentless is not affiliated with Noble Library, Arizona State University, the ASU Library, or the City of Tempe. Our office is in Chandler, not in Tempe.
3075 W Ray Rd #200
Chandler, AZ 85226
This page covers one spot near our Chandler office. We've mapped the other places around Chandler, Mesa, Tempe and Phoenix so you can find the one nearest you.
What This Looks Like With Us
Built around your real week
Sessions happen at our Chandler office or online. We help you build habits that fit the schedule you actually have.
Both of you, every time
We don't offer individual sessions. Each of you owns your own side, and both of you grow at the same time. Nobody is the project.
Coached by someone who's been there
You'll work with Sarah-Gayle or me, matched on your consultation. Sarah-Gayle holds a Master of Arts in Clinical Psychology with an emphasis in Marriage and Family Therapy from Azusa Pacific, and works here as a coach, not a clinician. I'm an ordained minister. We've been married more than twenty years and have coached thousands of couples.
Questions Couples Ask
How far is your office from Noble Library?
About 20 minutes by car, 9.3 miles, based on Google Maps. The fastest route runs along AZ-101 Loop S. Our office is at 3075 W Ray Rd #200 in Chandler. We also meet online.
Do both of us have to come if our schedules are packed?
Yes, both of you, every session. We don't offer individual work. Sessions happen at our Chandler office or online, which makes it easier to fit around a full schedule.
Won't asking "what did you hear" feel like a quiz?
It can the first time. The tone is what fixes it. You are asking because you want to be understood, and you are both on the same side of the problem. We practice the wording with you in session.
Close the Gap Between Said and Heard
Thirty minutes, free, both of you on the call. We'll tell you honestly whether we're the right fit.
Or call (623) 343-4764
There's always, always hope.