Hope Relentless
Marriage Counselor Near Hayden Library at ASU in Tempe
Getting unstuck on the one issue you keep circling. Telling the facts apart from the story built around them. A way to say what you want and be heard. We coach you together at our Chandler office, about twenty-six minutes from Hayden Library, or online.
30 minutes, free, no obligation. Both of you on the call.
A library is where you go to find out what is actually true. You pull the source, check the facts, and separate what is known from what is assumed. Couples tend to skip that step in an argument.
If you keep having the same disagreement about school, money, in-laws or where to live, there is usually a pile of opinion sitting on top of a few simple facts. The Bridge Exercise helps you dig down to the facts and work back up from there. It comes from Resilient Marriage, and we use it in our coaching.
The Bridge Exercise: One Issue at a Time
Use it on a single issue the two of you cannot get on the same page about. One bridge at a time.
Write down the data
Facts only, and both of you agree they are facts. "One of us wants public school and one of us wants private" is data. "You do not care about our kids" is not.
Answer alone first
Each of you completes the same lines on your own. I felt... The story I tell myself is... I reacted by...
Go underneath
Then keep going. My deep fear is... The backstory is... My deeper desire is...
Share, then ask
Read your answers to each other, one at a time, with a Validating Response in between. Finish with the last line: My request is...
Expect it to feel a little exposed. That is the point. It's a guide, not a law, and it works when each of you stays on your own answers.
Getting Here From Hayden Library
We use Hayden Library at 300 E Orange Mall on the ASU Tempe campus as the starting point. Google Maps' fastest route runs along AZ-101 Loop S, about 26 minutes and 9.6 miles on a weekday afternoon. A route along S McClintock Dr is about 9.2 miles. Our building sits at the southwest corner of Loop 101 and Ray Road. We also meet online.
To see the whole approach, visit our main page for a marriage counselor Chandler couples can meet with in person or online.
Hope Relentless is not affiliated with Arizona State University or ASU Library. Our office is in Chandler, not in Tempe.
3075 W Ray Rd #200
Chandler, AZ 85226
This page covers one spot near our Chandler office. We've mapped the other places around Chandler, Mesa and Tempe so you can find the one nearest you.
What This Looks Like With Us
Built around your real week
Sessions happen at our Chandler office or online. We take one issue at a time, so the work fits inside a real week.
Both of you, every time
We don't offer individual sessions. Each of you owns your own side, and both of you grow at the same time. Nobody is the project.
Coached by someone who's been there
You'll work with Sarah-Gayle or me, matched on your consultation. Sarah-Gayle holds a Master of Arts in Clinical Psychology with an emphasis in Marriage and Family Therapy from Azusa Pacific, and works here as a coach, not a clinician. I'm an ordained minister. We've been married more than twenty years and have coached thousands of couples.
Quick Questions
How far is your office from Hayden Library?
About 26 minutes by car from the ASU Tempe campus, based on a weekday afternoon in Google Maps. Our office is at 3075 W Ray Rd #200 in Chandler. We also meet online.
What if we cannot even agree on the facts?
Then that is the first thing to work on. Data means facts you would both sign off on. It keeps assumptions and mind-reading out of the room.
Find the Facts, Then Find Each Other
Thirty minutes, free, both of you on the call. We'll tell you honestly whether we're the right fit.
Or call (623) 343-4764
There's always, always hope.